As a man, it’s normal to fall for a woman you find attractive. After wooing her and she likes you, it can be such a wonderful feeling. You feel you’re on top of the world and very lucky to have such a damsel in your life. Your first kiss with her must have been electrifying, including the cuddling and budding romance. You cannot wait to show her why you’re the man and how great you’ll perform in the other room.
The sweetest part of it is that she is highly anticipating your promises when you will both get intimate. She asked you if everything was just mere bragging, but you claimed you are a man of your word. The way she lustfully looked at you charged you and filled you up with ecstasy. Finally, the day or night came, and unfortunately, you realized that you couldn’t fulfill your promises for specific reasons.
How Sexual Dysfunction Occurs In Men?
Some men will suddenly feel a drop in their libido, which is their sexual drive. As a result, they can’t engage in sexual intercourse, making their partner wonder what’s wrong. Similar to some men who have erectile dysfunction (ED), that is, their penis cannot stand during sexual intercourse. It just stays limp despite various foreplay, such as blow jobs to energize it.
However, some men’s penis might be erect and charged to satisfy their woman, but after a few thrusts, they quickly ejaculate and feel exhausted. This makes their partner wonder how less of a man he is, and they feel like their time was wasted. They cannot even reach orgasm, and they start having doubts about his abilities.
Sex is one way to make a woman love you more, and when you cannot perform your role well, it can result in a breakup, divorce, or cheating. Men experiencing these symptoms of erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and reduced libido during sexual intercourse have what is known as sexual dysfunction. Sadly, it doesn’t just affect women; it also can affect men’s mental health in several ways.
The Impact Of Male Sexual Dysfunction On Mental Health
Mental health is how you react to life, either positively or negatively. For instance, even if something good happens to you but you keep seeing only the bad side, it shows you have poor mental health, and it can lead to depression, suicide, loneliness, low self-esteem, etc. However, if something terrible happens to you, but you see the good side, it will help you manage stress and find support from friends and family, including other sources like the community, the online space, or your healthcare provider.
So, men with sexual dysfunction can also have poor mental health in the following ways:
- Psychological Impact of Sexual Dysfunction: When a man realizes that he has erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, it can make him inadequate. He can imagine what she will tell her friends and how they will mock him. It may affect his confidence and self-esteem, resulting in anxiety and even depression.
- Performance Anxiety: Having sex with a woman with a high libido can be frustrating if you cannot match her energy. This can happen when she wants more, and you’re already looking exhausted. The disappointment on her face and negative feedback can make you try harder to please her. This can cause anxiety because you want to avoid embarrassment, and you will be having more stress by forcing yourself to please her.
- Depression and Libido: Depression, which is associated with low mood, can occur due to a sad event in your life and it can reduce your sexual drive. Similarly, your libido might be low due to factors like low testosterone, medications such as antidepressants, antihistamines, blood pressure medications, etc.; chronic illness such as diabetes, obesity, heart disease, etc.; and age, resulting in low mood and reduced sexual function.
- Stress and Hormonal Imbalance: Chronic stress can increase cortisol levels, a stress hormone that can reduce testosterone levels, a hormone responsible for sexual performance. Moreover, the stress of sexual dysfunction can elevate existing stress levels, causing emotional strain and decreased sexual function.
- Relationship Strain: Men who cannot sexually satisfy their partner will have issues in their relationship. Their communication will suffer, and there will be emotional distancing because the woman isn’t happy. It might lead to frustration, break-up, loneliness, etc.
Having sexual dysfunction is not the end of life, and you can treat it to restore your confidence and relationship. You can try treatment options like bremelanotide (vyleesi) and filbanserin (addyi), alprostadil, testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), phosphodiesterase-5 (PDE5) inhibitors, etc. You can also consult your healthcare provider for more guidance.